~*~Unconventional Wedding Tunes?~*~

[esa]

What do you do for a reception when:

You're stuck in the 80's, love the oldies, Polka? Sure!, and can't get enough of the heavies but your partner...
Can't stand the 80's (unless it was of the heavy variety...forget Cindy Lauper!), loves the heavies, will Polka only on the pain of death (and even that's pushing it), and will play the oldies but raises an eyebrow anytime you try to put 95.5 on (before it was a g.d. country station) and your parents...
Want the reception music to be the traditional Classic Rock/Oldies tuneage get up, polka's for the old heads, and classic dancing for the rest while your friends...
Are going to hate it because most of them share the tastes you and your partner do...a little classic never killed anyone but bring on the heavy tunes too.

This came up in conversation two weeks ago and I still don't have an answer. You'd want music your guests would enjoy dancing to, but then there's the other half of them that can't stand the type of music the other half loves. And you tolerate the kind of music that is usually played at Receptions, but would love for it to be a lot more...."un-reserved". Is it "Your day, your music" or is it "Your day, your majority of guests music" or is it "Your day, Get a plethora and mix it all up...Seether to Simon and Garfunkle, Dry Kill Logic to Disco Inferno, Slipknot to Sixpence none the richer, Beastie Boys to the Beatles, David Allen Coe to Disturbed" Any thoughts?

[Mo Lester]

Yeah, it's a happy day, so play happy music. and I'm sure the Elvis and polka fans bring better gifts than the 'disturbed' fans. I know some wedding music can be sappy, but hey, keep the older folks happy, and they will remember it as a good time, not as a bunch of music that gave them a headache. But, I don't know what kind the mix will be , you do, so..............just my thoughts.........I always like to see Grammy happy! Of course she enjoyed watching me play for HF1, but Elvis is still her favorite.

[DMFJ03]

[Danette]

Been to quite a few receptions & use to bartend weddings on the side, what I generally noticed is that the music is usually light easy listening sorta stuff while everyone eats. As the evening progresses the music gets a little heavier and more up to date as the older folks call it a night. Most of the weddings I have seen the older family members call it a night just as the younger ones start getting ready to let loose.
I'd shoot for the 3rd option - sitting down with your partner and trying to find stuff that will make everyone happy, working the heavier stuff in to the mix as the older folks start thinning out. I don't think its written in stone anywhere that its manditory that you play the chicken dance song or any of the other stuff you usually hear at a reception -so if you dont want to do it .. dont. Personally, I'd play it just to watch all my drunk friends do it lol The best wedding I was ever at was in a tiny greek place in LA - none of that usual reception type music was played and we all had a blast! Like Mo said, its all about having fun .. and who's to say with a few shots that polka shy guy might not suprise ya and actually try? Stranger things have happened at receptions

Good luck and congrats !

[esa]

Good luck and congrats !

It's not me to "congrats". Just bringing a thought to the board.
But thanks... still a head ache thinking it.

[Danette]

Oops.. my bad for assuming
Its a good question still, and something to think of before hand.
Planning that day can be enough of a PIA with everyone adding their two cents and offering their "help" .. prolly thats a good detail to get out of the way in advance.

I get tylenol in bulk.. am more than happy to share if you need some

[DMFJ03]

Depending on how much my family-to-be proves to be a pain in the ass is the deciding factor on wether or not the Reception is Dry or not.

[GUITARII]

Depending on how much my family-to-be proves to be a pain in the ass is the deciding factor on wether or not the Reception is Dry or not.

Whether you decide to have alcohol or not is not the deciding factor.... It's an Irish Catholic thing... plus, if it's ESA you're considering, consider the family.... I mean the WHOLE family.... the alcohol will be there, I can pretty much guarantee that one!!

[DMFJ03]

Phooey.

[byndrsn]

Phooey.

Nope, I think Dan is right. If it is you and Lisa, I can tell you with all certainty that there will be Alcohol there. And, I think you know it, don't ya. I mean - I would bet that prohibition never stopped this family back in those days. (even so, without any alcohol - how many people would stick around much past dinner?? So what difference would the music make if noone was there to hear it?)

Anyway, as for the type of music, I happen to know this band ...... (just kidding).

If it is something you are thinking about for you and Jae - then I would like to talk to you about our bridal dance. And, I know that this is one subject Jae will listen to - $$$$$$$$$ Yeah, Mister "Lester" brought up a great point - the older folks are the ones slipping the $5's, 10's and 20's into the apron, not your metal head friends - I would bet my life on that!! As a matter of a fact, from some weddings I been to, it is usually the metal head looking types that try to get away without even throwing in a dollar and then trying to get as many shots off the tray before anyone notices.

And, as for letting it get "heavy" after the old folks leave - remember that your father and this brothers closed down your sister and I's reception around 5am - your family parties hard, they don't give up without a damn good fight!!

[dayzichick]

I'd say the bride and groom are dishing out a heck of a lot of money, it's their day and they should be selfish and play the music they want to play. To me, being the bride was the one day I didn't have to take care of anyone else, I didn't have to please anyone else, it was my day. I paid for it, I did what Dave and I wanted to do. After 32 years of life, I felt I deserved one day to play the music I wanted to hear. That being said, I did a journey through the decades and played all my favorite songs from each one.

[DMFJ03]

Apparently, you missed the humor.

[byndrsn]

Humor? I don't think so - Joking about a dry reception is not and will never be a funny subject. I personally think it is more serious than jokingly telling the airport security guy that you have a bomb!!

Anyway, it really doesn't matter because regardless - it is the Bride's day. No one elses (not even the groom!) That is the reality. (And dude, if you are going to ever marry Esa - you may as well concede to the fact that it has everything to do with what she wants and your feelings do not matter in the least!!! I'm sure I'm not the only guy that knows this bit of information!!)

[DMFJ03]

I'm done.

[esa]

Welcome RockPage to the carnival of Esa World. ::Cues up the music:: Doo doo do-de-do-da duh dum duhh da...

Okay. Hi. How is everyone? Good.
I was trying to get a serious answer and I just basically watched the brother in law, the cousin, and the boyfriend go into this with beer bottles broken at each other's ...

Okay. Point one: It is not the Bride's day. It is the Bride's mother and grandmothers day. When I was planning a wedding before, all of my ideas were over rulled. Hell, the only one that supported the dress I picked out was my sister and that was a shock.

Point two: I didn't want this thread to be about me. It was brought up with another friend two weeks ago and since it now how become about me, then I'm going to talk. Obviously at *our* wedding we will have the choir boys singing at a church mass that i'm going to have to start going to because i've been to church physically 7 times in the past 3 years. So in order for me to not get bitched at by my catholic family, i will have to be married by a priest. I want this outside. They say "no, must be in a church". Definition of a church: a group of people celebrating a sacrament. I don't remember Christ saying, "Sorry assholes, I can't give you fish and bread because I'm preaching on a mountain. We gotta go find the nearest temple."
Our Reception (which he doesn't even want to have because it is going to be more bullshit and fighting than anything) is probably going to have The Rattlers and Beyond Reason playing. Would I like some of our musical friends to come play? Hells yes. We'll see if we can't figure out something in the long run...but who knows.
So what *the bride* wants and what *will happen* are two terribly different things because she has to contend with what will keep the family and the groom happy. It is going to be a miserable day because I refuse to elope and between the two ends will be a pissing contest to see who can out do the other.

Point three: Dry wedding = No one showing up = Him happy because it takes another pain off his ass.


So thank you all for riding at my carnival. Feel free to add to this.

[Imgrimm01]

How bout ... DON"T GET MARRIED !! EVER !!! FOR ANY REASON !! That's my advice just have fun with your signifigant other and who ever else you both agree upon and that will be it !! Esa this isn't specifically to you but to anyone who considers marriage !

[Imgrimm01]

Marriage is THE DEVIL !!

[byndrsn]

Marriage is THE DEVIL !!

Wow Bobby, you really do have some intense issues!!!!!

[byndrsn]

I was trying to get a serious answer and I just basically watched the brother in law, the cousin, and the boyfriend go into this with beer bottles broken at each other's ...

Well, first of all, for my part I was just havin fun with Jae - I think he knows that. And if he is upset, then I'll give him a hug and buy him a beer and I'm sure he will feel better. (Damn, there we go back to the alcohol again)

Okay. Point one: It is not the Bride's day. It is the Bride's mother and grandmothers day. When I was planning a wedding before, all of my ideas were over rulled. Hell, the only one that supported the dress I picked out was my sister and that was a shock.

Well, I do think it is the brides day. I know that everyone else has to put in their 2 cents, but ultimately it should be about the couple that is getting married and then realistically - that boils down to it being about the woman for two reasons. 1st, she is the one that has been dreaming of her wedding day since she was a kid and 2nd, most guys really don't give a f*ck about all the little details. For me, what was important was - what kind of beer will there be, Can I change out of those uncomfortable shoes at the reception, can I let my hair down at the reception and most importantly: what kind of beer will there be.

Point two: I didn't want this thread to be about me.

Well, if this is not about you then just refer to my earlier post about money at the bridal dance. Seriously - you keep the older folks happy and you really cash in!!! I'm not saying that money is everything - but it sure helps ya out when you are starting out in life together.


And, just for one more second I would like to stand on my soapbox for a moment and say to anyone who is thinkin about getting hitched. Don't listen to all the negative people who say bad things about marriage. It is what you make of it. It ain't always pretty, that may be true, but most days are great - for me the good outweighs the bad 99 - 1. Of course, it takes some work, some patience, some adjusting, some balancing, etc, but it is what you make of it.

I know that I am lucky because I really don't deserve the gal I've got!!!

I could easily say that marriage sucks after my first wife left me for another guy on Valentines Day - but, well, that is another story. All I can say is that I am not sorry that I re-married, even when I said I would never do it again.

Urbs

[bassist_25]

This thread kind of makes me want a beer.

[DMFJ03]

Well, first of all, for my part I was just havin fun with Jae - I think he knows that.

Of course, I love ya brother...you can still buy me a beer if you want.

This thread kind of makes me want a beer.

In that case, where are we drinking tonight?

[byndrsn]

This thread kind of makes me want a beer.

Hey Paul, I've got a question for you - do I have a problem if most things make me think that I want a beer?!?

[esa]

I want to be married outside (off the coast of Lake Rowena)...on a nice fall'ish day. Or Summery day. Hell...I'd be happy to be married in the blizzard that's happening right now!

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byndrsn wrote:
Anyway, as for the type of music, I happen to know this band ...... (just kidding).
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I want a reception with a mix of music (I wish his parents were coming, I'd have had his step-dad's business dj the dinner..but they won't come so that plan is out)...and I know that Dad's band and Tom's band would be playing...it will be rough because some of the wedding party are the musicians... I also know that there are atleast three other groups that I'd love to come up during the night and jam out.

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danette wrote:
Oops.. my bad for assuming
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No, that's fine. We're doing alot of talking and it will happen eventually...just hasn't happened yet. And thanks for the Tylenol offer...I'll take you up on that for sure!

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GuitarII wrote:
Whether you decide to have alcohol or not is not the deciding factor.... It's an Irish Catholic thing... plus, if it's ESA you're considering, consider the family.... I mean the WHOLE family.... the alcohol will be there, I can pretty much guarantee that one!!
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I don't think I could survive a dry reception anyways. Just be kind... I have the bladder of a squirrel when I start drinking...
And btw...does that mean you've recovered from Saturday? ::sniggers:: A true Myers....

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Byndrsn wrote:
I know that everyone else has to put in their 2 cents, but ultimately it should be about the couple that is getting married and then realistically - that boils down to it being about the woman for two reasons. 1st, she is the one that has been dreaming of her wedding day since she was a kid and 2nd, most guys really don't give a f*ck about all the little details.
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That I agree with... I know that there's going to be a fight because some things won't be very conventional... but like I said..I don't want to just run off and Jp it. I want the hooplah. I want everyone paying attention to me and ...well...c'mon. Most of us would be lying if we didn't say the thought of presents galore didn't excite us. What it comes down to is: I have a picture in my mind how I would love things to go. I have an idea how things will bend to try and keep him happy. I have to figure out away to keep the other people happy... but I want the attention. I want the party. I want him to be happy with how the day goes.


And Tom... stay on your soap box. You married a wonderful girl. And got an even better in-law!

[gymnast]

Here is my two cents...
It is the bride's day! I have a few friends that bent this way and that to please family, and regret not doing things their way. Hey if the family truly loves you they will be there for you on your day even if you wear a black dress, and have Skull candle holders as the center pieces on the tables, and jack skellington napkin holders. You wedding day should be an expression of who the couple is and a celebration of the 2 becoming 1. The music, take it mellow and do a nice build up.
Why the hell am I rambling? All I care about is what are we gonna do for a bachelorette party?? Matbe we should all discuss that first before discussing the union.

[esa]

Hey if the family truly loves you they will be there for you on your day even if you wear a black dress, and have Skull candle holders as the center pieces on the tables.
You wedding day should be an expression of who the couple is and a celebration of the 2 becoming 1.

It should be... but that still doesn't mean I'm not going to have to pick my grandmother up off the floor with a black dress... she almost disowned me the last time for picking a strapless and beige one...(it wasn't white!!!)

Why the hell am I rambling? All I care about is what are we gonna do for a bachelorette party?? Matbe we should all discuss that first before discussing the union.

::laughs:: And that is why I truely do love you!