Here's a post I have yet to see on here...unless I've missed it. What happens if you're a major part of your significant others band (not playing it, just managing it, sponsoring it, doing behind/infront of the scenes work or just full out tilt supporting it) and you decide to leave or divorcce the person. How does the band handle it? Is everyone still allowed to be friends or are you shunned!?
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What has your band ever done to help advance a break up in your life?
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What has your band done that has kept you and your significant other together?
I guess I've been watching a little too much VH1 behind the muzaks. Just got me curious as to what is right and propper and etc. What do you think?
(besides, all this politic stuff was getting too heavy for my tastes...)
~*~Esa~*~
I'll be the one left standing behind you, looking the other way as you glance back at what you've lost.
Having recently been in this situation Esa, I have lots of opinions about it. but since we don't have all day.....
Most important thing as far as I'm concerned is to not, under any circumstances show up at the other person's gig after a breakup. If I saw my ex at one of my gigs right now it would throw off my whole night. and I won't go where his band will be because I don't want to screw up his show either. doesn't matter if you don't cause any trouble, if the person knows you are there it is probably going to cause some mental/focus problems for them on stage. when it comes down to it, they have a job they are trying to do, and showing up there would kinda be like showing up at their day job with a 12 pack, a bottle of JD and a bunch of drunk guys tring to hook up with you, and then expecting them to do their job and pretend you are not there. rather difficult and not cool at all. I think it's best to cut the ties and find other bands to see.
Wow.. I didn't just mean like, seeing the guys at their gig, I meant if it were an outside thing or something. That's rough. Everyone knows not to go visit the ex on a gig night...but, oy. I was thinking more along the lines of shared haunting spots, if you were tight with other bands and stuff like that.
Well, here is the scenerio. Guy dumps girl to go back to ex-gf. She is shocked, mad, etc. but accepts it. The band was like family (three guys and a chick). She had been managing the band for about a decade and was like, "Now what do I do?" I didn't catch the name of the movie and unfortunately, I fell asleep before the end of it. It just kind of spurred on thoughts. Thought this might be a good string to start. Almost reminds me of the "what is the most rockstar thing you ever did" string.
I'm sorry to hear about you having gone through it. If you need anyone to help you burn out eyes from pictures or tampon his stage sometime, lemme know. lol!
~*~Esa~*~
I'll be the one left standing behind you, looking the other way as you glance back at what you've lost.
I think that you Esa should look for something ( someone ) else to do and keep your mind occupied. You obviously got very involved and could probably get very involved in another situation that might turn out to be better for you.
I think breakups are tough but it is a small town and people are bound to run into each other. As long as people act mature and try to remain amiable things work out. I think the worse part is when it gets to the "Blame Game" where each party tries to show the other why it was their fault that the relationship did not work.
The bands around here need as much support as they can get it would be a shame if you could not go see a band that you loved!
Torn & Frayed
One World, One Voice, One God! Music is LIFE!
Nuuuuuuuuuu... frayed... It was a movie!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not me not me not me not me.
lol.
I have lighters...oh sooo many lighters (yes, I'm a klepto when it comes to them and spoons) ....and so much practice at eye gouging. You'd be surprised. I'm glad I could make ya smile April. Just wait till you see the things I can show you to do to vehicles, amps and... well...I'll save that one for later. Muah ha ha!
~*~Esa~*~
I'll be the one left standing behind you, looking the other way as you glance back at what you've lost.
El Authentico believes that the proper way to keep peace with the other band members is to sleep with all of them. Either individually, or all in one big battle royale.
What has your band ever done to help advance a break up in your life?
Bands contribute to breakups simply by exisiting. They are pretty helpful in that respect.
This is also a very long story but I'll condense it. Was dating Mr. X and he was the bass player for Ribbon Grass at the time, about 5 years ago. Their lead singer decided to leave the band so they needed a new female lead. Enter me. Started practicing, gigging with the band, decide I don't want to date Mr. X anymore, want to date the keyboardist instead. I go for it, end up breaking up the band by breaking up with Mr. X, BUT, end up marrying the keyboardist 3 years later. The breakup with Mr. X led to an 8-month hiatus for Ribbon Grass while we found a replacement. Mr. X was mad as anyone would be, but he got over it and started a new band and now his drummer is also our drummer who was the original drummer for Ribbon Grass. Yes it's a tangled web we weave of living in a small town and knowing everyone in the band circuit. There were some confrontations that went down (mostly between the three of us because Mr. X would come out to our gigs to be Mr. Ass, but everyone else did not pick sides, didn't get involved with it). Eventually, everyone calmed down, and we are all friends now or at least cordial to each other, because life is too short to spend it arguing over things that weren't meant to be. This is a true story, (true story) of five strangers picked to be in a band and see what happens when people stop being polite and start being real. Yes I watch way too much reality tv, lol, and I always wanted to marry a rock star. So I did.
Ribbon Grass
The Future's uncertain and The End is always near.
Just got me curious as to what is right and propper and etc. What do you think?
