upset and totally lost

homerski · Post by **homerski** » Tuesday Apr 08, 2008

It's been almost 10 years since my Dad passed, and I was there at his last breath. I was gonna write all about him, but then I realized this is about you and your Dad, not mine.. The grief will pass, and there will be hundreds of things every day that will bring back fond memories of his life.

So I offer you the "Hopi (Indian) Grief Song":

I AM NOT HERE

Don't stand by my grave and weep,
For I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint of snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning, hush.
For I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circle flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand by my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die.

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In closing,

Know that he appreciates the pain you are going through right now, but he does not want you to suffer.

John Homerski Jr.

nickname · Post by **nickname** » Wednesday Apr 09, 2008

Sorry about your loss. I lost my mother 3 years ago, and I've found that the pain is slowly being replaced by my fond memories of her. Losing anyone is never easy. It has torn my family apart. I can at least smile now.

Banned · Post by **Banned** » Wednesday Apr 09, 2008

I would like to thank you all for your kind words, sorry i don't feel much for conversation rite now I'm just really numb inside rite now..........................................................................................

T@rgetDrone · Post by **T@rgetDrone** » Wednesday Apr 09, 2008

Homerski is absolutely right. It is about you and your Dad. But I think it could possibly help knowing so many have experienced the same or similar. I.E., we have felt your pain and we understand how hard it is and will be. As far as the time coming that we are ready to let go of our loved ones, I don't think that happens unless they are suffering badly.

I really liked the Hopi Grief Song. I will offer it to my wife who is grieving over her Dad's recent departure. He lost his battle w/lymphoma (cancer). He meant the world to her as I'm sure your Dad meant the world to you.

My sincere condolences to you and your loved ones.